Fine Fantasies???

Let me start by saying that this entry is quite delicate, but I think it needs some elucidation.

Let me first say, that any person who has been physically or emotionally abused should seek professional therapeutic help and should even contact the appropriate authorities.

I do not condone any violence or abuse/molestation in any way shape or form. It is evil immoral, illegal, and wrong.

I do not mean to hurt or offend anyone by this blog and apologize ahead of time if I do so.

This posting is not for everyone to read, so please use judgment as to whether you want to continue reading.

What are fantasies? How do they develop? How can they be satisfied or fulfilled?

I have been thinking quite a bit about this topic for quite some time.

When I first arrived online and started chatting about 8 or 9 years ago, I was initially shocked to hear some of the thoughts that women have.

I always knew that men are perverts, but women!?!? I was stunned.

The first time a woman told me she has a fantasy of being raped, I couldn't believe it. What woman would have that as a sexual fantasy that she gets aroused by?

After years of becoming less naive (unfortunately), I have realized that it is a fairly common and prevalent fantasy that many women have.

Let me again reiterate that I am NOT in favor of rape in any way, and I am not saying that every single woman thinks about rape.

What I am saying is that MANY (not all, not even most) women think about it.

Obviously, this fantasy is not necessarily about the sex. It is about the control, strength of the man and submission of the woman. The idea of giving up control, etc.

In my online travels, I have spoken to three women who have been raped in reality (there might have been more than i spoke with, but these 3 told me about it). Beyond the horrific nature of the act which was perpetrated against these women, there was another reaction.

One woman told me that it was the worst day of her life, but that she has never had a more powerful and intense orgasm in her whole life. That, in turn, made her feel more guilty for "enjoying it".

It has manifested itself for her, in that since that day, she has tried to find sexual experiences which are harder, rougher, more violent...just to relive the feeling.

She DOES NOT want to be raped again, but it has now become part of who she is and part of her sexual make-up.

So, I ask...

Are all fantasies fine? or are there some fantasies that should be discouraged? (omitting obviously fantasies about children which should be punished and discouraged)

Please let me know your thoughts. I have tried to be sensitive about this topic, so please respond in kind.

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