Calm Kallahs Making Me Nervous???

For the uninformed, the blissfully ignorant, Calm Kallahs (CK) is a website geared towards jewish wedding stuff.

However, the creators of the website installed a section on the website, in which people, specifically observant Jewish people, can post questions, comments, concerns about their private and intimate lives with their spouses.

I'm still unsure if the creators were just smarter than everyone else and knew that a website with a section of that nature would attract a lot of traffic, or whether it initially was an incidental portion of their concept. I suspect the former.

I must admit that the last time I actually perused that website was about 3 years ago. While many individuals ask serious and sometimes not so serious, but nevertheless important, halachic (jewish law) questions about sexuality, there are probably many people who are just there to make fun and joke, criticize and frankly, to get off!!

It seems that many postings there were written by horny teenaged boys, either pretending to be women, or pretending to be horny adult boys.

Again the internet has reached its lowest common denominator. A website like this serves a much needed purpose for uninformed, scared or curious frum newlyweds who realize that maybe the Chasson and Kallah teachers didn't tell them EVERYTHING they need or want to know.

But the people who view it as a joke or frum porn or frum voyeurism devalue it.

There are very funny, sad and informative issues being discussed there, but it still makes me very very nervous.

The fakers don't make me nervous. It's the real husbands and wives who make me nervous.

I find it extremely sad that husbands and wives don't trust each other enough to reveal their thoughts, feelings and fantasies...the deepest parts of themselves.

Even though they are frum, they are also human. Perhaps the spouses won't be sickened with the fantasies.

I'm still single, but I thought marriage was about sharing.

I guess it makes me nervous because ot gets me thinking...

What will my wife hide from me? What won't she share with me about her fantasies? Will I also be afraid or will I tell her my fantasies? Will I be completely comfortable around my wife?

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